Merge pull request #76 from i-hate-reality/pref-pronouns

preferred pronouns

config.toml

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+# Thanks, totikom, for working on <https://github.com/getzola/zola/pull/2480>
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content/09-preferred-pronouns.md

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+title = "preferred pronouns"
+date = 2024-12-02
+description = "a short rant"
+
+[taxonomies] 
+tags = ["rant", "short", "trans", "lowercase"]
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+
+i recently saw the term "preferred pronouns" being used, which reminded i wanted to rant about it.
+
+<!-- more -->
+
+so, at first this may seem like a nice term/phrase.
+indeed, it's better to ask someone which pronouns they prefer to be used for them, than to assume them based on *\*vibes\**.
+
+yet i kinda despise this?
+
+not the asking pronouns part of course! just the "preferred" bit.
+
+if "preferred" is there, it must be differentiating between something.
+there must be a "normal" pronouns kind and a "preferred" one.
+it kind-of sounds like you are trying to specifically call out that a person is trans,
+in a deragatory way[^1]. like they have the pronouns you've assumed, but because they
+are *trans* you are *forced* to ask them for their *preferred* ones.
+
+[^1]: i know that most people don't mean it that way.
+      at least not consciously anyway.
+      yet it does feel this way (at least for me)?
+
+to draw an analogy, you wouldn't ask anyone for their "*preferred* name".
+you would just ask them for their name, it's already assumed that they'll tell you a name
+that they want you to call them[^2], so "preferred" would be meaningless[^4].
+
+[^2]: or they can always say something like "my name is xyz, but please call me asteroid destroyer"
+
+[^4]: there is one case where "preferred pronouns" is meaningful -- when people have
+      multiple sets of pronouns (for example it/she/they -- meaning "it/its or she/her or
+      they/them"), they might have a preferred set (usually pronouns are listed in order
+      of desceding preferrence). however, this is not what people mean when they ask for
+      "preferred pronouns".
+
+similarly, i think you should just ask people "what are your pronouns?" -- drop "preferred".
+it's shorter, it's easier, it's nicer.
+
+my pronouns are it/its btw[^3], meow!
+
+[^3]: at least at the moment? .-.
+
+bye :3
+

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