[BugFix] fix query timeout behavior when using query queue (backport #53677)

[mergify]

Why I'm doing:

For a particular case that a query takes hundreds of seconds in the optimizer then pend in the query queue:

1. The real timeout can be longer than expected, because query queue pending timeout count from creating slot, but not from command start
2. The counter query_queue_timeout is not changed, since that pending request received a cancel request

What I'm doing:

1. Query queue pending deadline should count from command start, instead of the time when create slot
2. The pending can be cancelled by other thread, so it also need to deal with the CancellationException

Fixes #issue

What type of PR is this:

• BugFix
• Feature
• Enhancement
• Refactor
• UT
• Doc
• Tool

Does this PR entail a change in behavior?

• Yes, this PR will result in a change in behavior.
• No, this PR will not result in a change in behavior.

If yes, please specify the type of change:

• Interface/UI changes: syntax, type conversion, expression evaluation, display information
• Parameter changes: default values, similar parameters but with different default values
• Policy changes: use new policy to replace old one, functionality automatically enabled
• Feature removed
• Miscellaneous: upgrade & downgrade compatibility, etc.

Checklist:

• I have added test cases for my bug fix or my new feature
• This pr needs user documentation (for new or modified features or behaviors)
  • I have added documentation for my new feature or new function
• This is a backport pr

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  • 3.4
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  • 3.1
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    This is an automatic backport of pull request [BugFix] fix query timeout behavior when using query queue #53677 done by Mergify.

Why I'm doing:

For a particular case that a query takes hundreds of seconds in the optimizer then pend in the query queue:

1. The real timeout can be longer than expected, because query queue pending timeout count from creating slot, but not from command start
2. The counter query_queue_timeout is not changed, since that pending request received a cancel request

What I'm doing:

1. Query queue pending deadline should count from command start, instead of the time when create slot
2. The pending can be cancelled by other thread, so it also need to deal with the CancellationException

Fixes #issue

What type of PR is this:

• BugFix
• Feature
• Enhancement
• Refactor
• UT
• Doc
• Tool

Does this PR entail a change in behavior?

• Yes, this PR will result in a change in behavior.
• No, this PR will not result in a change in behavior.

If yes, please specify the type of change:

• Interface/UI changes: syntax, type conversion, expression evaluation, display information
• Parameter changes: default values, similar parameters but with different default values
• Policy changes: use new policy to replace old one, functionality automatically enabled
• Feature removed
• Miscellaneous: upgrade & downgrade compatibility, etc.

Checklist:

• I have added test cases for my bug fix or my new feature
• This pr needs user documentation (for new or modified features or behaviors)
  • I have added documentation for my new feature or new function
• This is a backport pr

[mergify]

Cherry-pick of 880022b has failed:

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Changes to be committed:
	modified:   fe/fe-core/src/main/java/com/starrocks/qe/ConnectContext.java
	modified:   fe/fe-core/src/main/java/com/starrocks/qe/scheduler/slot/LogicalSlot.java
	modified:   fe/fe-core/src/test/java/com/starrocks/qe/scheduler/QueryQueueManagerTest.java

Unmerged paths:
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	both modified:   fe/fe-core/src/main/java/com/starrocks/qe/QueryQueueManager.java

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[mergify]

@mergify[bot]: Backport conflict, please reslove the conflict and resubmit the pr

[sonarqubecloud]

Quality Gate passed

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